iw_cxgb4: refactor sq/rq drain logic

With the addition of the IB/Core drain API, iw_cxgb4 supported drain
by watching the CQs when the QP was out of RTS and signalling "drain
complete" when the last CQE is polled.  This, however, doesn't fully
support the drain semantics. Namely, the drain logic is supposed to signal
"drain complete" only when the application has _processed_ the last CQE,
not just removed them from the CQ.  Thus a small timing hole exists that
can cause touch after free type bugs in applications using the drain API
(nvmf, iSER, for example).  So iw_cxgb4 needs a better solution.

The iWARP Verbs spec mandates that "_at some point_ after the QP is
moved to ERROR", the iWARP driver MUST synchronously fail post_send and
post_recv calls.  iw_cxgb4 was currently not allowing any posts once the
QP is in ERROR.  This was in part due to the fact that the HW queues for
the QP in ERROR state are disabled at this point, so there wasn't much
else to do but fail the post operation synchronously.  This restriction
is what drove the first drain implementation in iw_cxgb4 that has the
above mentioned flaw.

This patch changes iw_cxgb4 to allow post_send and post_recv WRs after
the QP is moved to ERROR state for kernel mode users, thus still adhering
to the Verbs spec for user mode users, but allowing flush WRs for kernel
users.  Since the HW queues are disabled, we just synthesize a CQE for
this post, queue it to the SW CQ, and then call the CQ event handler.
This enables proper drain operations for the various storage applications.

Signed-off-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>