xfs: share xattr name and value buffers when logging xattr updates

While running xfs/297 and generic/642, I noticed a crash in
xfs_attri_item_relog when it tries to copy the attr name to the new
xattri log item.  I think what happened here was that we called
->iop_commit on the old attri item (which nulls out the pointers) as
part of a log force at the same time that a chained attr operation was
ongoing.  The system was busy enough that at some later point, the defer
ops operation decided it was necessary to relog the attri log item, but
as we've detached the name buffer from the old attri log item, we can't
copy it to the new one, and kaboom.

I think there's a broader refcounting problem with LARP mode -- the
setxattr code can return to userspace before the CIL actually formats
and commits the log item, which results in a UAF bug.  Therefore, the
xattr log item needs to be able to retain a reference to the name and
value buffers until the log items have completely cleared the log.
Furthermore, each time...