firewire: use split transaction timeout only for split transactions

Instead of starting the split transaction timeout timer when any request
is submitted, start it only when the destination's ACK_PENDING has been
received.  This prevents us from using a timeout that is too short, and,
if the controller's AT queue is emptying very slowly, from cancelling
a packet that has not yet been sent.

Signed-off-by: Clemens Ladisch <clemens@ladisch.de>
Signed-off-by: Stefan Richter <stefanr@s5r6.in-berlin.de>