bpf, sockmap: Improved check for empty queue

We noticed some rare sk_buffs were stepping past the queue when system was
under memory pressure. The general theory is to skip enqueueing
sk_buffs when its not necessary which is the normal case with a system
that is properly provisioned for the task, no memory pressure and enough
cpu assigned.

But, if we can't allocate memory due to an ENOMEM error when enqueueing
the sk_buff into the sockmap receive queue we push it onto a delayed
workqueue to retry later. When a new sk_buff is received we then check
if that queue is empty. However, there is a problem with simply checking
the queue length. When a sk_buff is being processed from the ingress queue
but not yet on the sockmap msg receive queue its possible to also recv
a sk_buff through normal path. It will check the ingress queue which is
zero and then skip ahead of the pkt being processed.

Previously we used sock lock from both contexts which made the problem
harder to hit, but not impossible.

To fix instead of popping the skb from the queue entirely we peek the
skb from the queue and do the copy there. This ensures checks to the
queue length are non-zero while skb is being processed. Then finally
when the entire skb has been copied to user space queue or another
socket we pop it off the queue. This way the queue length check allows
bypassing the queue only after the list has been completely processed.

To reproduce issue we run NGINX compliance test with sockmap running and
observe some flakes in our testing that we attributed to this issue.

Fixes: 04919bed

 ("tcp: Introduce tcp_read_skb()")
Suggested-by: Jakub Sitnicki <jakub@cloudflare.com>
Signed-off-by: John Fastabend <john.fastabend@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>
Tested-by: William Findlay <will@isovalent.com>
Reviewed-by: Jakub Sitnicki <jakub@cloudflare.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/20230523025618.113937-5-john.fastabend@gmail.com