vfio: Make the group FD disassociate from the iommu_group

Allow the vfio_group struct to exist with a NULL iommu_group pointer. When
the pointer is NULL the vfio_group users promise not to touch the
iommu_group. This allows a driver to be hot unplugged while userspace is
keeping the group FD open.

Remove all the code waiting for the group FD to close.

This fixes a userspace regression where we learned that virtnodedevd
leaves a group FD open even though the /dev/ node for it has been deleted
and all the drivers for it unplugged.

Fixes: ca5f21b2

 ("vfio: Follow a strict lifetime for struct iommu_group")
Reported-by: Christian Borntraeger <borntraeger@linux.ibm.com>
Tested-by: Matthew Rosato <mjrosato@linux.ibm.com>
Tested-by: Christian Borntraeger <borntraeger@de.ibm.com>
Tested-by: Eric Farman <farman@linux.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/3-v2-15417f29324e+1c-vfio_group_disassociate_jgg@nvidia.com
Signed-off-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>