nvme-fabrics: allow discovery subsystems accept a kato

This modifies the behavior of discovery subsystems to accept
a kato as a preparation to support discovery log change
events. This also means that now every discovery controller
will have a default kato value, and for non-persistent connections
the host needs to pass in a zero kato value (keep_alive_tmo=0).

Reviewed-by: Minwoo Im <minwoo.im.dev@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: James Smart <james.smart@broadcom.com>
Reviewed-by: Hannes Reinecke <hare@suse.com>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Chaitanya Kulkarni <chaitanya.kulkarni@wdc.com>
Signed-off-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>