net: sched: implement action API that deletes action by index

Implement new action API function that atomically finds and deletes action
from idr by index. Intended to be used by lockless actions that do not rely
on rtnl lock.

Reviewed-by: Marcelo Ricardo Leitner <marcelo.leitner@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Vlad Buslov <vladbu@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jiri Pirko <jiri@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>