Phonet: support active connection without pipe controller on modem

This provides support for newer ISI modems with no need for the
earlier experimental compile-time alternative choice. With this,
we can now use the same kernel and userspace with both types of
modems.

This also avoids confusing two different and incompatible state
machines, actively connected vs accepted sockets, and adds
connection response error handling (processing "SYN/RST" of sorts).

Signed-off-by: Rémi Denis-Courmont <remi.denis-courmont@nokia.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>