io_uring: make sure async workqueue is canceled on exit

Track async work items that we queue, so we can safely cancel them
if the ring is closed or the process exits. Newer kernels handle
this automatically with io-wq, but the old workqueue based setup needs
a bit of special help to get there.

There's no upstream variant of this, as that would require backporting
all the io-wq changes from 5.5 and on. Hence I made a one-off that
ensures that we don't leak memory if we have async work items that
need active cancelation (like socket IO).

Reported-by: Agarwal, Anchal <anchalag@amazon.com>
Tested-by: Agarwal, Anchal <anchalag@amazon.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>
Signed-off-by: Sasha Levin <sashal@kernel.org>