bcachefs: Fix btree_trans list ordering

The debug code relies on btree_trans_list being ordered so that it can
resume on subsequent calls or lock restarts.

However, it was using trans->locknig_wait.task.pid, which is incorrect
since btree_trans objects are cached and reused - typically by different
tasks.

Fix this by switching to pointer order, and also sort them lazily when
required - speeding up the btree_trans_get() fastpath.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>