bpf, sockmap: Fix incorrect fwd_alloc accounting

Incorrect accounting fwd_alloc can result in a warning when the socket
is torn down,

 [18455.319240] WARNING: CPU: 0 PID: 24075 at net/core/stream.c:208 sk_stream_kill_queues+0x21f/0x230
 [...]
 [18455.319543] Call Trace:
 [18455.319556]  inet_csk_destroy_sock+0xba/0x1f0
 [18455.319577]  tcp_rcv_state_process+0x1b4e/0x2380
 [18455.319593]  ? lock_downgrade+0x3a0/0x3a0
 [18455.319617]  ? tcp_finish_connect+0x1e0/0x1e0
 [18455.319631]  ? sk_reset_timer+0x15/0x70
 [18455.319646]  ? tcp_schedule_loss_probe+0x1b2/0x240
 [18455.319663]  ? lock_release+0xb2/0x3f0
 [18455.319676]  ? __release_sock+0x8a/0x1b0
 [18455.319690]  ? lock_downgrade+0x3a0/0x3a0
 [18455.319704]  ? lock_release+0x3f0/0x3f0
 [18455.319717]  ? __tcp_close+0x2c6/0x790
 [18455.319736]  ? tcp_v4_do_rcv+0x168/0x370
 [18455.319750]  tcp_v4_do_rcv+0x168/0x370
 [18455.319767]  __release_sock+0xbc/0x1b0
 [18455.319785]  __tcp_close+0x2ee/0x790
 [18455.319805]  tcp_close+0x20/0x80

This currently happens because on redirect case we do skb_set_owner_r()
with the original sock. This increments the fwd_alloc memory accounting
on the original sock. Then on redirect we may push this into the queue
of the psock we are redirecting to. When the skb is flushed from the
queue we give the memory back to the original sock. The problem is if
the original sock is destroyed/closed with skbs on another psocks queue
then the original sock will not have a way to reclaim the memory before
being destroyed. Then above warning will be thrown

  sockA                          sockB

  sk_psock_strp_read()
   sk_psock_verdict_apply()
     -- SK_REDIRECT --
     sk_psock_skb_redirect()
                                skb_queue_tail(psock_other->ingress_skb..)

  sk_close()
   sock_map_unref()
     sk_psock_put()
       sk_psock_drop()
         sk_psock_zap_ingress()

At this point we have torn down our own psock, but have the outstanding
skb in psock_other. Note that SK_PASS doesn't have this problem because
the sk_psock_drop() logic releases the skb, its still associated with
our psock.

To resolve lets only account for sockets on the ingress queue that are
still associated with the current socket. On the redirect case we will
check memory limits per 6fa9201a, but will omit fwd_alloc accounting
until skb is actually enqueued. When the skb is sent via skb_send_sock_locked
or received with sk_psock_skb_ingress memory will be claimed on psock_other.

Fixes: 6fa9201a ("bpf, sockmap: Avoid returning unneeded EAGAIN when redirecting to self")
Reported-by: Andrii Nakryiko <andrii@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: John Fastabend <john.fastabend@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/161731444013.68884.4021114312848535993.stgit@john-XPS-13-9370