net/smc: improve delete link processing

Send an orderly DELETE LINK request before termination of a link group,
add support for client triggered DELETE LINK processing. And send a
disorderly DELETE LINK before module is unloaded.

Signed-off-by: Karsten Graul <kgraul@linux.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Ursula Braun <ubraun@linux.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>