netfilter: nfnetlink: allow to detect if ctnetlink listeners exist

At this time, every new conntrack gets the 'event cache extension'
enabled for it.

This is because the 'net.netfilter.nf_conntrack_events' sysctl defaults
to 1.

Changing the default to 0 means that commands that rely on the event
notification extension, e.g. 'conntrack -E' or conntrackd, stop working.

We COULD detect if there is a listener by means of
'nfnetlink_has_listeners()' and only add the extension if this is true.

The downside is a dependency from conntrack module to nfnetlink module.

This adds a different way: inc/dec a counter whenever a ctnetlink group
is being (un)subscribed and toggle a flag in struct net.

Next patches will take advantage of this and will only add the event
extension if the flag is set.

Signed-off-by: Florian Westphal <fw@strlen.de>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>