memremap: provide an optional internal refcount in struct dev_pagemap

Provide an internal refcounting logic if no ->ref field is provided
in the pagemap passed into devm_memremap_pages so that callers don't
have to reinvent it poorly.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Ira Weiny <ira.weiny@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Dan Williams <dan.j.williams@intel.com>
Tested-by: Dan Williams <dan.j.williams@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>