vhost: generalize adding used elem

Use one generic vhost_copy_to_user() instead of two dedicated
accessor. This will simplify the conversion to fine grain
accessors. About 2% improvement of PPS were seen during vitio-user
txonly test.

Signed-off-by: Jason Wang <jasowang@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>