nbd: add device refcounting

In order to support deleting the device on disconnect we need to
refcount the actual nbd_device struct.  So add the refcounting framework
and change how we free the normal devices at rmmod time so we can catch
reference leaks.

Signed-off-by: Josef Bacik <jbacik@fb.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@fb.com>