netfilter: ipset: fix performance regression in swap operation

The patch "netfilter: ipset: fix race condition between swap/destroy
and kernel side add/del/test", commit 28628fa9 fixes a race condition.
But the synchronize_rcu() added to the swap function unnecessarily slows
it down: it can safely be moved to destroy and use call_rcu() instead.

Eric Dumazet pointed out that simply calling the destroy functions as
rcu callback does not work: sets with timeout use garbage collectors
which need cancelling at destroy which can wait. Therefore the destroy
functions are split into two: cancelling garbage collectors safely at
executing the command received by netlink and moving the remaining
part only into the rcu callback.

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/lkml/C0829B10-EAA6-4809-874E-E1E9C05A8D84@automattic.com/
Fixes: 28628fa9

 ("netfilter: ipset: fix race condition between swap/destroy and kernel side add/del/test")
Reported-by: Ale Crismani <ale.crismani@automattic.com>
Reported-by: David Wang <00107082@163.com>
Tested-by: David Wang <00107082@163.com>
Signed-off-by: Jozsef Kadlecsik <kadlec@netfilter.org>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>