fs: dlm: add reliable connection if reconnect

This patch introduce to make a tcp lowcomms connection reliable even if
reconnects occurs. This is done by an application layer re-transmission
handling and sequence numbers in dlm protocols. There are three new dlm
commands:

DLM_OPTS:

This will encapsulate an existing dlm message (and rcom message if they
don't have an own application side re-transmission handling). As optional
handling additional tlv's (type length fields) can be appended. This can
be for example a sequence number field. However because in DLM_OPTS the
lockspace field is unused and a sequence number is a mandatory field it
isn't made as a tlv and we put the sequence number inside the lockspace
id. The possibility to add optional options are still there for future
purposes.

DLM_ACK:

Just a dlm header to acknowledge the receive of a DLM_OPTS message to
it's sender.

DLM_FIN:

This provides a 4 way handshake for connection termination inclusive
support for half-closed connections. It's provided on application layer
because SCTP doesn't support half-closed sockets, the shutdown() call
can interrupted by e.g. TCP resets itself and a hard logic to implement
it because the othercon paradigm in lowcomms. The 4-way termination
handshake also solve problems to synchronize peer EOF arrival and that
the cluster manager removes the peer in the node membership handling of
DLM. In some cases messages can be still transmitted in this time and we
need to wait for the node membership event.

To provide a reliable connection the node will retransmit all
unacknowledges message to it's peer on reconnect. The receiver will then
filtering out the next received message and drop all messages which are
duplicates.

As RCOM_STATUS and RCOM_NAMES messages are the first messages which are
exchanged and they have they own re-transmission handling, there exists
logic that these messages must be first. If these messages arrives we
store the dlm version field. This handling is on DLM 3.1 and after this
patch 3.2 the same. A backwards compatibility handling has been added
which seems to work on tests without tcpkill, however it's not recommended
to use DLM 3.1 and 3.2 at the same time, because DLM 3.2 tries to fix long
term bugs in the DLM protocol.

Signed-off-by: Alexander Aring <aahringo@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>