powerpc/qspinlock: provide accounting and options for sleepy locks

Finding the owner or a queued waiter on a lock with a preempted vcpu is
indicative of an oversubscribed guest causing the lock to get into
trouble. Provide some options to detect this situation and have new CPUs
avoid queueing for a longer time (more steal iterations) to minimise the
problems caused by vcpu preemption on the queue.

Signed-off-by: Nicholas Piggin <npiggin@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael Ellerman <mpe@ellerman.id.au>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20221126095932.1234527-17-npiggin@gmail.com