netfilter: xtables: add and use xt_request_find_table_lock

currently we always return -ENOENT to userspace if we can't find
a particular table, or if the table initialization fails.

Followup patch will make nat table init fail in case nftables already
registered a nat hook so this change makes xt_find_table_lock return
an ERR_PTR to return the errno value reported from the table init
function.

Add xt_request_find_table_lock as try_then_request_module replacement
and use it where needed.

Signed-off-by: Florian Westphal <fw@strlen.de>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>