bpf, xdp: Implement LINK_UPDATE for BPF XDP link

Add support for LINK_UPDATE command for BPF XDP link to enable reliable
replacement of underlying BPF program.

Signed-off-by: Andrii Nakryiko <andriin@fb.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/20200722064603.3350758-6-andriin@fb.com