xfs: merge xfs_attr_remove into xfs_attr_set

The Linux xattr and acl APIs use a single call for set and remove.
Modify the high-level XFS API to match that and let xfs_attr_set handle
removing attributes as well.  With a little bit of reordering this
removes a lot of code.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Dave Chinner <dchinner@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Chandan Rajendra <chandanrlinux@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>