of: overlay: update phandle cache on overlay apply and remove

A comment in the review of the patch adding the phandle cache said that
the cache would have to be updated when modules are applied and removed.
This patch implements the cache updates.

Fixes: 0b3ce78e

 ("of: cache phandle nodes to reduce cost of of_find_node_by_phandle()")
Reported-by: Alan Tull <atull@kernel.org>
Suggested-by: Alan Tull <atull@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Frank Rowand <frank.rowand@sony.com>
Signed-off-by: Rob Herring <robh@kernel.org>