nfsd4: fix downgrade/lock logic

If we already had a RW open for a file, and get a readonly open, we were
piggybacking on the existing RW open.  That's inconsistent with the
downgrade logic which blows away the RW open assuming you'll still have
a readonly open.

Also, make sure there is a readonly or writeonly open available for
locking, again to prevent bad behavior in downgrade cases when any RW
open may be lost.

Signed-off-by: J. Bruce Fields <bfields@redhat.com>