dlm: allow multiple lockspace creates

Add a count for lockspace create and release so that create can
be called multiple times to use the lockspace from different places.
Also add the new flag DLM_LSFL_NEWEXCL to create a lockspace with
the previous behavior of returning -EEXIST if the lockspace already
exists.

Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>