drbd: attach on connected diskless peer must not shrink a consistent device

If we would reject a new handshake, if the peer had attached first,
and then connected, we should force disconnect if the peer first connects,
and only then attaches.

Signed-off-by: Lars Ellenberg <lars.ellenberg@linbit.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>