nfsd: optimize destroy_lockowner cl_lock thrashing

Reduce the cl_lock trashing in destroy_lockowner. Unhash all of the
lockstateids on the lockowner's list. Put the reference under the lock
and see if it was the last one. If so, then add it to a private list
to be destroyed after we drop the lock.

Signed-off-by: Jeff Layton <jlayton@primarydata.com>
Signed-off-by: J. Bruce Fields <bfields@redhat.com>