xprtrdma: Prevent inline overflow

When deciding whether to send a Call inline, rpcrdma_marshal_req
doesn't take into account header bytes consumed by chunk lists.
This results in Call messages on the wire that are sometimes larger
than the inline threshold.

Likewise, when a Write list or Reply chunk is in play, the server's
reply has to emit an RDMA Send that includes a larger-than-minimal
RPC-over-RDMA header.

The actual size of a Call message cannot be estimated until after
the chunk lists have been registered. Thus the size of each
RPC-over-RDMA header can be estimated only after chunks are
registered; but the decision to register chunks is based on the size
of that header. Chicken, meet egg.

The best a client can do is estimate header size based on the
largest header that might occur, and then ensure that inline content
is always smaller than that.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Tested-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <Anna.Schumaker@Netapp.com>