netfilter: flowtable: separate replace, destroy and stats to different workqueues

Currently the flow table offload replace, destroy and stats work items are
executed on a single workqueue. As such, DESTROY and STATS commands may
be backloged after a burst of REPLACE work items. This scenario can bloat
up memory and may cause active connections to age.

Instatiate add, del and stats workqueues to avoid backlogs of non-dependent
actions. Provide sysfs control over the workqueue attributes, allowing
userspace applications to control the workqueue cpumask.

Signed-off-by: Oz Shlomo <ozsh@nvidia.com>
Reviewed-by: Paul Blakey <paulb@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>