io_uring: fix race condition when sq threads goes sleeping

Reading the SQ tail needs to come after setting IORING_SQ_NEED_WAKEUP in
flags; there is no cheap barrier for ordering a store before a load, a
full memory barrier is required.

Userspace needs a full memory barrier between updating SQ tail and
checking for the IORING_SQ_NEED_WAKEUP too.

Signed-off-by: Stefan Bühler <source@stbuehler.de>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>