btrfs: add btrfs_delete_ref_head helper

We do this dance in cleanup_ref_head and check_ref_cleanup, unify it
into a helper and cleanup the calling functions.

Reviewed-by: Omar Sandoval <osandov@fb.com>
Reviewed-by: Nikolay Borisov <nborisov@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Josef Bacik <jbacik@fb.com>
Reviewed-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>