bpf, sockmap: af_unix stream sockets need to hold ref for pair sock

AF_UNIX stream sockets are a paired socket. So sending on one of the pairs
will lookup the paired socket as part of the send operation. It is possible
however to put just one of the pairs in a BPF map. This currently increments
the refcnt on the sock in the sockmap to ensure it is not free'd by the
stack before sockmap cleans up its state and stops any skbs being sent/recv'd
to that socket.

But we missed a case. If the peer socket is closed it will be free'd by the
stack. However, the paired socket can still be referenced from BPF sockmap
side because we hold a reference there. Then if we are sending traffic through
BPF sockmap to that socket it will try to dereference the free'd pair in its
send logic creating a use after free. And following splat:

   [59.900375] BUG: KASAN: slab-use-after-free in sk_wake_async+0x31/0x1b0
   [59.901211] Read of size 8 at addr ffff88811acbf060 by task kworker/1:2/954
   [...]
   [59.905468] Call Trace:
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