kvm/vfio: Fix potential deadlock on vfio group_lock

Currently it is possible that the final put of a KVM reference comes from
vfio during its device close operation.  This occurs while the vfio group
lock is held; however, if the vfio device is still in the kvm device list,
then the following call chain could result in a deadlock:

VFIO holds group->group_lock/group_rwsem
  -> kvm_put_kvm
   -> kvm_destroy_vm
    -> kvm_destroy_devices
     -> kvm_vfio_destroy
      -> kvm_vfio_file_set_kvm
       -> vfio_file_set_kvm
        -> try to hold group->group_lock/group_rwsem

The key function is the kvm_destroy_devices() which triggers destroy cb
of kvm_device_ops. It calls back to vfio and try to hold group_lock. So
if this path doesn't call back to vfio, this dead lock would be fixed.
Actually, there is a way for it. KVM provides another point to free the
kvm-vfio device which is the point when the device file descriptor is
closed. This can be achieved by providing the release cb instead of the
destroy cb. Also rename kvm_vfio_destroy() to be kvm_vfio_release().

	/*
	 * Destroy is responsible for freeing dev.
	 *
	 * Destroy may be called before or after destructors are called
	 * on emulated I/O regions, depending on whether a reference is
	 * held by a vcpu or other kvm component that gets destroyed
	 * after the emulated I/O.
	 */
	void (*destroy)(struct kvm_device *dev);

	/*
	 * Release is an alternative method to free the device. It is
	 * called when the device file descriptor is closed. Once
	 * release is called, the destroy method will not be called
	 * anymore as the device is removed from the device list of
	 * the VM. kvm->lock is held.
	 */
	void (*release)(struct kvm_device *dev);

Fixes: 421cfe65 ("vfio: remove VFIO_GROUP_NOTIFY_SET_KVM")
Reported-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>
Suggested-by: Kevin Tian <kevin.tian@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Yi Liu <yi.l.liu@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Matthew Rosato <mjrosato@linux.ibm.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230114000351.115444-1-mjrosato@linux.ibm.com
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230120150528.471752-1-yi.l.liu@intel.com


[aw: update comment as well, s/destroy/release/]
Signed-off-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>