libceph: avoid KEEPALIVE_PENDING races in ceph_con_keepalive()

con_fault() can transition the connection into STANDBY right after
ceph_con_keepalive() clears STANDBY in clear_standby():

    libceph user thread               ceph-msgr worker

ceph_con_keepalive()
  mutex_lock(&con->mutex)
  clear_standby(con)
  mutex_unlock(&con->mutex)
                                mutex_lock(&con->mutex)
                                con_fault()
                                  ...
                                  if KEEPALIVE_PENDING isn't set
                                    set state to STANDBY
                                  ...
                                mutex_unlock(&con->mutex)
  set KEEPALIVE_PENDING
  set WRITE_PENDING

This triggers warnings in clear_standby() when either ceph_con_send()
or ceph_con_keepalive() get to clearing STANDBY next time.

I don't see a reason to condition queue_con() call on the previous
value of KEEPALIVE_PENDING, so move the setting of KEEPALIVE_PENDING
into the criti...