btrfs: fix dead lock while running replace and defrag concurrently

This can be reproduced by fstests: btrfs/070

The scenario is like the following:

replace worker thread		defrag thread
---------------------		-------------
copy_nocow_pages_worker		btrfs_defrag_file
  copy_nocow_pages_for_inode	    ...
				  btrfs_writepages
  |A| lock_extent_bits		    extent_write_cache_pages
				|B|   lock_page
					__extent_writepage
		...			  writepage_delalloc
					    find_lock_delalloc_range
				|B| 	      lock_extent_bits
  find_or_create_page
    pagecache_get_page
  |A| lock_page

This leads to an ABBA pattern deadlock. To fix it,
o we just change it to an AABB pattern which means to @unlock_extent_bits()
  before we @lock_page(), and in this way the @extent_read_full_page_nolock()
  is no longer in an locked context, so change it back to @extent_read_full_page()
  to regain protection.

o Since we @unlock_extent_bits() earlier, then before @write_page_nocow(),
  the extent may not really point at the physical block we want, so we
  have to check it before write.

Signed-off-by: Gui Hecheng <guihc.fnst@cn.fujitsu.com>
Tested-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.cz>
Signed-off-by: Chris Mason <clm@fb.com>