net: sched: refactor tp insert/delete for concurrent execution

Implement unique insertion function to atomically attach tcf_proto to chain
after verifying that no other tcf proto with specified priority exists.
Implement delete function that verifies that tp is actually empty before
deleting it. Use these functions to refactor cls API to account for
concurrent tp and rule update instead of relying on rtnl lock. Add new
'deleting' flag to tcf proto. Use it to restart search when iterating over
tp's on chain to prevent accessing potentially inval tp->next pointer.

Extend tcf proto with spinlock that is intended to be used to protect its
data from concurrent modification instead of relying on rtnl mutex. Use it
to protect 'deleting' flag. Add lockdep macros to validate that lock is
held when accessing protected fields.

Signed-off-by: Vlad Buslov <vladbu@mellanox.com>
Acked-by: Jiri Pirko <jiri@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>