xfrm interface: fix management of phydev

With the current implementation, phydev cannot be removed:

$ ip link add dummy type dummy
$ ip link add xfrm1 type xfrm dev dummy if_id 1
$ ip l d dummy
 kernel:[77938.465445] unregister_netdevice: waiting for dummy to become free. Usage count = 1

Manage it like in ip tunnels, ie just keep the ifindex. Not that the side
effect, is that the phydev is now optional.

Fixes: f203b76d

 ("xfrm: Add virtual xfrm interfaces")
Signed-off-by: Nicolas Dichtel <nicolas.dichtel@6wind.com>
Tested-by: Julien Floret <julien.floret@6wind.com>
Signed-off-by: Steffen Klassert <steffen.klassert@secunet.com>