RDMA/core: Simplify destruction of FD uobjects

FD uobjects have a weird split between the struct file and uobject
world. Simplify this to make them pure uobjects and use a generic release
method for all struct file operations.

This fixes the control flow so that mlx5_cmd_cleanup_async_ctx() is always
called before erasing the linked list contents to make the concurrancy
simpler to understand.

For this to work the uobject destruction must fence anything that it is
cleaning up - the design must not rely on struct file lifetime.

Only deliver_event() relies on the struct file to when adding new events
to the queue, add a is_destroyed check under lock to block it.

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/1578504126-9400-3-git-send-email-yishaih@mellanox.com
Signed-off-by: Yishai Hadas <yishaih@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>