xfs: consolidate the xfs_attr_defer_* helpers

Consolidate the xfs_attr_defer_* helpers into a single xfs_attr_defer_add
one that picks the right dela_state based on the passed in operation.
Also move to a single trace point as the actual operation is visible
through the flags in the delta_state passed to the trace point.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: "Darrick J. Wong" <djwong@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Chandan Babu R <chandanbabu@kernel.org>