nfp: split out common control message handling code

BPF's control message handler seems like a good base to built
on for request-reply control messages.  Split it out to allow
for reuse.

Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <jakub.kicinski@netronome.com>
Reviewed-by: Dirk van der Merwe <dirk.vandermerwe@netronome.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>