netfilter: ipset: set match: add support to match the counters

The new revision of the set match supports to match the counters
and to suppress updating the counters at matching too.

At the set:list types, the updating of the subcounters can be
suppressed as well.

Signed-off-by: Jozsef Kadlecsik <kadlec@blackhole.kfki.hu>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>