9p: Drop kref usage

An upcoming patch is going to require passing the client through
p9_req_put() -> p9_req_free(), but that's awkward with the kref
indirection - so this patch switches to using refcount_t directly.

Link: https://lkml.kernel.org/r/20220704014243.153050-1-kent.overstreet@gmail.com
Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>
Cc: Eric Van Hensbergen <ericvh@gmail.com>
Cc: Latchesar Ionkov <lucho@ionkov.net>
Signed-off-by: Dominique Martinet <asmadeus@codewreck.org>