fuse: serialize dirops by default

Negotiate with userspace filesystems whether they support parallel readdir
and lookup.  Disable parallelism by default for fear of breaking fuse
filesystems.

Signed-off-by: Miklos Szeredi <mszeredi@redhat.com>
Fixes: 9902af79 ("parallel lookups: actual switch to rwsem")
Fixes: d9b3dbdc ("fuse: switch to ->iterate_shared()")