IB/core: Support passing uhw for create_flow

This is required when user-space drivers need to pass extra information
regarding how to handle this flow steering specification.

Reviewed-by: Yishai Hadas <yishaih@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Matan Barak <matanb@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Boris Pismenny <borisp@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>