sched: Simplify set_affinity_pending refcounts

Now that we have set_affinity_pending::stop_pending to indicate if a
stopper is in progress, and we have the guarantee that if that stopper
exists, it will (eventually) complete our @pending we can simplify the
refcount scheme by no longer counting the stopper thread.

Fixes: 6d337eab ("sched: Fix migrate_disable() vs set_cpus_allowed_ptr()")
Cc: stable@kernel.org
Signed-off-by: Peter Zijlstra (Intel) <peterz@infradead.org>
Signed-off-by: Ingo Molnar <mingo@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Valentin Schneider <valentin.schneider@arm.com>
Link: https://lkml.kernel.org/r/20210224131355.724130207@infradead.org