bpf: skmsg, fix psock create on existing kcm/tls port

Before using the psock returned by sk_psock_get() when adding it to a
sockmap we need to ensure it is actually a sockmap based psock.
Previously we were only checking this after incrementing the reference
counter which was an error. This resulted in a slab-out-of-bounds
error when the psock was not actually a sockmap type.

This moves the check up so the reference counter is only used
if it is a sockmap psock.

Eric reported the following KASAN BUG,

BUG: KASAN: slab-out-of-bounds in atomic_read include/asm-generic/atomic-instrumented.h:21 [inline]
BUG: KASAN: slab-out-of-bounds in refcount_inc_not_zero_checked+0x97/0x2f0 lib/refcount.c:120
Read of size 4 at addr ffff88019548be58 by task syz-executor4/22387

CPU: 1 PID: 22387 Comm: syz-executor4 Not tainted 4.19.0-rc7+ #264
Hardware name: Google Google Compute Engine/Google Compute Engine, BIOS Google 01/01/2011
Call Trace:
 __dump_stack lib/dump_stack.c:77 [inline]
 dump_stack+0x1c4/0x2b4 lib/dump_sta...