Revert "eventfs: Remove "is_freed" union with rcu head"

This reverts commit fa18a8a0.

The eventfs was not designed properly and may have some hidden bugs in it.
Linus rewrote it properly and I trust his version more than this one. Revert
the backported patches for 6.6 and re-apply all the changes to make it
equivalent to Linus's version.

Signed-off-by: Steven Rostedt (Google) <rostedt@goodmis.org>
Signed-off-by: Greg Kroah-Hartman <gregkh@linuxfoundation.org>