nvmet-tcp: fix potential race of tcp socket closing accept_work

When we accept a TCP connection and allocate an nvmet-tcp queue we should
make sure not to fully establish it or reference it as the connection may
be already closing, which triggers queue release work, which does not
fence against queue establishment.

In order to address such a race, we make sure to check the sk_state and
contain the queue reference to be done underneath the sk_callback_lock
such that the queue release work correctly fences against it.

Fixes: 872d26a3

 ("nvmet-tcp: add NVMe over TCP target driver")
Reported-by: Elad Grupi <elad.grupi@dell.com>
Signed-off-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>